Become the mother you always wanted.
How wonderful would it be to know you are the perfect mother for your child?
But perhaps you’re like I was and you’ve been more scared than blissful? Maybe you feel like an imposter, like someone is going to discover how ill-equipped you really are to be jumping into this whole mother gig?
There’s a lot about the way you were raised that you don’t want to repeat but you’re not sure you have the skills to be different.
You’re reading the right books, taking the baby classes and gobbling up the advice everyone is so prepared to share but something inside you still feels apprehensive. Will you do the right things? Can you be the kind of mom you want to be? Sure you can figure out how to put a diaper on but how do you ensure your baby grows up feeling loved and happy?
When I was pregnant, all the focus was on preparing me physically.
Everyone wanted to make sure I knew how to breathe when I was in labor, how to breastfeed the baby and how to care for him when I brought him home. My husband and I bought the diapers, painted the baby’s room and talked about what it would be like having a baby in the house. I took the birthing courses and reached out to family and friends but still something was missing. Part of me was excited but another part of me was freaking out.
Instead of checking in and getting curious about what was really going on for me, I became withdrawn. Nobody picked up on it. They thought everything was fine but I felt like a ghost floating near my body but not wanting to live in it.
I was going through the motions of motherhood without enjoying the dance.
My inability to connect emotionally to motherhood and to my baby had heartbreaking effects. I couldn’t stand up for myself and make my own decisions. I was a puppet being led by people who did not reflect my true values and who were making parenting decisions that I didn’t agree with or like. My birthing experience was nothing like I would have wanted it to be.
I took my baby home and it got worse before it got better. I tried to breastfeed but my milk wouldn’t drop because I felt no connection to my baby. I was anxious most of the time. I felt a profound love for my baby but more often than not this feeling was hijacked by fear or depression. I was scared that I didn’t know what I was doing and somehow I would cause irreparable damage and I was depressed from years of living with the emotional IQ of a zombie. My emotional state caused me to miss out on the joy and miracle of the most beautiful event in my life. More importantly, I wasn’t able to care for my son as well as I would have liked to.
It wasn’t until years later that I realized the cause of my rocky road to motherhood could be traced back to my own experience as a child and my lack of emotional wisdom.
I wish someone would have taken me aside when I was thinking of having a bay or when he was born and said, “You’re scared. Your whole world is going to change and you’re not sure you can handle it. You feel like you don’t know how to do this and that makes all the sense in the world considering what went on for you when you were a child. Despite that, everything you need to be the perfect mother for your child is in you. I promise you. It’s there. You just have to find it again. It’s going to take a little bit of work but don’t worry, you will do fine. Everything is going to be okay.”
That’s why I created Raising Babies with Love: Six Essential Lessons to Heal the Past and Raise an Emotionally Nourished Baby
It’s a 12 week online course for soon-to-be mothers and mothers of babies and toddlers (0 – 4) who want to reconcile the past, step into motherhood with a wise heart and learn how to properly care for their baby’s emotional well-being. It’s also for women who are thinking of starting of family but who have been putting it off because they’re afraid they don’t know how to be the kind of mom they want to be.
Currently, I’m looking for 15 special women to test my new program.
I’m looking for moms or moms-to-be who:
- have a child from 0 – 4 years old
- or are pregnant or thinking about being pregnant
- were raised in a less than ideal emotional environment
- suspect their own childhood issues might negatively impact their role as mother
- want to make the necessary changes now BEFORE big problems present themselves later
- understand that learning how to take care of a baby’s physical body is one step but that’s it’s just as important to learn how to care for those tender little hearts and those big wise spirits
I’m also looking for easy-going women who appreciate a major discount in exchange for being patient with me as I run through this material online for the first time.
Here’s some of what we’ll cover in the course:
- Why love matters most to babies
- How babies receive love (hint: it’s a little different than adults)
- What emotional nutrients are and the 6 most important ones to feed those baby hearts
- How a parent’s childhood affects their baby
- A simple method to heal a parent’s past so it won’t affect the baby
- How to create the kind of emotional environment babies (and the family) will thrive in
The test run for this new course begins Thursday, August 18th at 6:30 pm MST.
We will be gathering once a week for 12 weeks by webinar. This is NOT an information only course. This is practical and experiential. We will be working online closely together. If you cannot attend because of the time zone difference, you can still register for the course and receive all the modules, recordings and access to the private online group but instead of attending the weekly classes you will receive 3 private sessions with me throughout the 12 weeks to ensure you are integrating the wisdom to address your specific needs.
In this course, you will receive:
- 12 pretty workbooks that contain creative activities to help you apply what you are learning
- 12 weekly online classes where I also use the group’s current challenges and struggles to deepen the learning (the online are every Thursday evening at 6:30 pm MST from August 18th to November 3rd, 2016. Each class will be recorded and available after it is completed.)
- Tips and tricks to practice in your everyday life until we meet again
- Invitation to the private online group where I’ll be available to answer any questions that may arise as you work through the material
This test run is only open to 15 women.
Those who sign up for my test run will receive the full course experience for only $550 (or choose to pay $188 monthly for 3 months).
The course is now in session!
Raising babies is hard work but the challenges are easier to face when you’ve worked through your own issues and you feel confident you know what you’re doing. Babies are precious bundles that require a lot of physical care. There are tons of resources out there to teach everything from how to handle diaper rash to breastfeeding and managing sleep. But what about that tender little heart and that wise little spirit? What can be done to ensure those parts are nurtured properly too?
The thing about precious baby hearts is they are sensitive little things that need to be fed and nurtured just like tiny human baby bodies. Unfortunately, most of us haven’t been taught how to care for their own delicate hearts much less do we know how to care for those beautiful baby hearts. We carry brave hearts that have been bumped, bruised and broken and even though the desire to surround our baby’s darling little heart in love is there, the knowledge on how to do that is often lacking.
This is especially true for women who have experienced difficult childhoods and difficult childhood relationships with their own mothers.
With the six essential lessons I cover in this course, you’ll explore how you can become the mother they always wanted.
This course is for anyone who is pregnant, thinking of being pregnant soon or has kids from 0 – 4 years old.