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Use the energy of the new moon in January to help you trust your path!

Reflect

Many years ago, I printed out and hung on my office wall the words, “I trust my path” or maybe it was “I walk my own path”. I can’t remember exactly but I do know that at the time, I didn’t know how to walk my own path. I didn’t know how to be my own woman. I didn’t know how to stand on my own two feet and walk forward along the path that only my heart and spirit could carve out for me because I didn’t know how to listen to my own heart never mind trust her.

Looking back, I wish I could take the younger version of me aside and say,

“My dear Dana, you are not walking your own path. You have a trauma response that keeps drowning out your own wisdom. You are more aware of other people’s emotions than your own. You care more about making other people happy than you do about making yourself happy. You have no idea what truly lights you up because you’re so used to dismissing your own thoughts and feelings. In fact, you’re so used to dismissing yourself you don’t even know when you’re doing it. You’re not living your own life. You’ve stepped off your path and you’re walking in the wilderness. You are lost. You keep finding a path to follow but it ends up being someone else’s. You’re just following them on their path which makes you a shadow. You are more than a shadow. You have your own path.

Wake up and find it. Figure out how to hear your heart and your Spirit and honor them. They will lead you to your path. It’s a good one. I promise it’s perfect for you in a way no other path could be. It won’t be an easy one but no one’s ever is so might as well face the monsters on your path then stay lost forever trying to find your way on everyone else’s.”

I obviously didn’t have that conversation with myself and instead those words hung on my office walls where they encouraged me but it took me many years to truly walk my own path. It’s hard to find your own path and then once you do, it’s so very easy to get pulled off it.

First of all, with white privilege, ableism, sexism, poverty, anti-fat bias and other societal factors, not all paths are created equal so when you find yourself on a path that has obstacles built in from the start it’s hard to want to walk that path. Then there’s the fact that your culture, your friends or your family will want you to live a certain way and you’ll feel blatant or hidden pressure to conform in order to fit in and belong. People you love and admire are going to try to tell you how to be, what to wear, how to show up, who you are, what you should like and dislike and what you should value and what you shouldn’t. This will happen in little and big ways.

People tend to live by rules and they’re convinced the rules they live by should be your rules too but there are as many ways to live as there are people. There are as many ways to practice spirituality as there are people. You don’t have to follow someone else’s rules. Make your own or find a set of rules you love and make you feel like you’ve come home to yourself and follow them despite everything and everyone else. The truth is, you won’t always feel loved or seen for who you really are and if you have deep abandonment wounds, you might be like I was and prefer to bend and contort yourself to be what you think will make others happy rather than risk rejection.

It takes a lot of courage to walk your own path. You also need to be attuned to your own heart and Spirit and you need to have your own back. You need to know that no matter what YOU will be there to love and support yourself even if everyone abandons you. Your path is going to test you and push you and cause you to grow and stretch. It will want you to become the very thing you’ve secretly been scared to become your whole life. You’ll bump into all your insecurities and feeling of unworthiness. But trusting your own path and walking on it without getting pulled off it is where all the spiritual gold is in my opinion. It’s where you meet who you are at the core, past the trauma and the limitations the world has placed on you, past the stories of littleness you’re used to telling yourself, past the fear that gripped you in the past. And greeting yourself – who you truly are – is finding meaning and purpose too.

If you are not on my email list and haven’t received this month’s moon page, visit my homepage and sign up. You’ll receive a link where you can download the hand-drawn page I created for this particular moon. Print it, grab a tea and a cozy blanket, get comfortable then follow the instructions below.

Create

If moon rituals are familiar to you, prepare your sacred space and invite Spirit to join you in whatever way works best for you.

If, however, you are new to moon rituals, I’ve included a quick guide to the steps I follow to prepare for my moon rituals in a past blog post. Take a look at it before moving forward.

Print out the January new moon journal page.

Set two goals for yourself: a short-term goal that is accomplished in the next 2 or 3 months’ time and a long term goal that spans the next 20 years.

First, think about the goal you want to accomplish in the next 2 to 3 months.

Vividly see yourself achieving this goal. Take note of how it feels to achieve your goal. Picture your surroundings with as much detail as possible. See the colors being very bright and all the action happening around you. How does it feel in your body when you accomplish this goal? Let this emotion of accomplishment sink into your bones.

Now, set a long-term goal for the next 20 years. If you were to greet yourself twenty years from now, what do you hope you will be experiencing? What will you be doing? See yourself in as much depth as you can. Look around and see all the little details around you….people, objects, nature or whatever you see. Picture it as vividly as you can. See your friends and many people congratulating you on your accomplishments. Notice how it feels to achieve what you desire. Let this feeling grow and fill you up completely.

Now write words or draw images on the ankles and feet depicted on the journal page all the things you can think of that capture your visions and goals. Imagine you are tattooing your feet with your dreams.

Finally, color your moon page as you think about how you will feel when your intentions become real.

If you end up completing this spiritual art ritual, I’d love to hear how it went. You can even take a picture of a part of your process and share it on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtag #danasmoonpages or email me at support@danadaponte.com and share with me how it went for you. It’s fun for me to know there are others out there enjoying the moon with me.

with love,

Dana da Ponte

 

 

 

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This December 2020 full moon journal page was created to help you release what you do not want to carry into the New Year.

Reflect

I don’t know about you but moving into a New Year feels heavier this time. I’m an optimistic dreamer by nature. Usually, I enjoy thinking about my goals and dreams. This year is a little different. We’ve all been through a lot and if you’re like me, you might be finding it a little harder to muster up the desire to plan or dream. What’s the point if things are going to change so much anyway, right?

Well the point is nothing lasts forever – even the really hard times so let me share some optimistic signs about 2021.

The first one I want to remind myself and you of is a message my guardian angel Cassandra gave me a few years ago. She told me that in my lifetime, it will seem as if there are two realities happening at the same time. There will be a lot of destruction and chaos and it will be confusing and scary and challenging but there will also be more magic than ever before…more people achieving their wildest dreams, more people focused on building a better world, more people feeling like they can manifest their realities and the veil between our world and the world of Spirit becoming even thinner. There will be a lot of collapse on the planet but there will also be a lot of innovation, restructuring and revisioning.

When she explained this to me it came with a flood of emotions. I felt all the chaos and grief and pain and in the same moment I felt all the exuberance, magic and gratitude. The message has helped me to come to terms with the fact that for the rest of my life I’ll be facing a lot of difficult things I’ve never had to face before and the world might seem scary at times (nothing new here really) but things aren’t black and white and magic and light will exist right alongside the heaviness. Our ability to stay grounded and focus on love and light will be more important than ever. It’s not a time to stop dreaming. It’s a time to keep dreaming.

Her message wasn’t a message that said, “Hang on so you can get through this Dana.” Her message was more like, “Hang on because It’s going to get bumpy but don’t stop! Keep working your magic! It matters and you will now have more access to the invisible forces conspiring in your favor than ever before.”

Another optimistic sign about 2021 comes from astrology. I was listening to The Astrology Podcast the other day and they admitted that before they gave their year ahead forecast for 2020 they had to sit down together and discuss how much they wanted to share publicly. Astrologically speaking, things looked that grim for 2020. They were worried about sharing all the information because what if it caused everyone to feel discouraged or afraid. They weren’t wrong to worry but this year during their year ahead forecast for 2021 they felt more optimistic. They weren’t jumping up and down for joy over what the planets have to say about what’s coming in 2021 but they weren’t discouraged either. In fact, they said there are more things to be hopeful and welcoming of in 2021 than there were in 2020 especially because there are a couple planetary cycles that are going to be much nicer than anything we had in 2020.

They also described this New Year reset energy as being a lot stronger than usual. Culturally, we look at the New Year as a reset but that doesn’t always coincide with astrology. Just because we’re starting a new calendar year doesn’t mean we’re starting new cycles in the sky but this year is different. There’s a lot of newness in the skies…there are a lot of cycles ending and starting over in new energy so this whole New Year reset energy has a lot more supporting it than usual.

It’s the start of a new twenty year cycle and a new 200 year cycle. This means some of the changes we’re planning and building towards in the world that have to do with the 200 year cycle, we’re not going to have the chance to see or experience for ourselves in our lifetime. But the smaller twenty year cycle most likely will be so what you’re planning or putting your energy towards this year will carry forward with you into the next twenty years. Keep this in mind as you work on this full moon journal page. Take a moment to think in terms of what you want to build or create in the next twenty years…not just in the next year.

What direction do you want to travel? Are you afraid to move forward or can you trust yourself enough to take the next indicated step? And maybe, there are some big new steps you have to take as you move into this new 20 year cycle. Let’s use this full moon journal page to clear as many obstacles as we can so you can move forward in joy with grace and determination.

If you are like me and this full moon journal page is a good start but you want to spend more time dreaming and visioning and planning, you might enjoy the magical virtual painting retreats I am hosting in January.

If you are not on my email list and haven’t received this month’s moon page, visit my homepage and sign up. You’ll receive a link where you can download the hand-drawn page I created for this particular moon. Print it, grab a tea and a cozy blanket, get comfortable then follow the instructions below.

Create

If moon rituals are familiar to you, prepare your sacred space and invite Spirit to join you in whatever way works best for you.

If, however, you are new to moon rituals, I’ve included a quick guide to the steps I follow to prepare for my moon rituals in a past blog post. Take a look at it before moving forward.

Print out the December full moon journal page and gather your pencil crayons or paint.

Start by thinking about what the next twenty years and the New Year. What are some of the experiences you imagine having in the next twenty years? What kind of experiences can you imagine that would light you right up? Try to stretch your imagination here. Think of something you would think is fantastic and wonderful then ask yourself what would make that experience even more fantastic and wonderful. You might even want to draw a timeline. I find this helpful in stretching my imagination. Start the timeline at your birth and carry it out as far into the future as you want to. Write down significant events from your past on the timeline then pause and place the things you want to happen in the future on your timeline too. It’s a great visual exercise that helps your imagination to see into the future.

When you have an idea of the kind of experiences you want to create in your future, think about what can happen in the New Year to support your vision. What kind of goals could you set that would be helpful? What kind of habits or routines could you start that would help move your life in the direction you want to go?

Finally, look at your timeline and think about the issues in your relationships or emotional well-being that held you back in the past and that might continue to hold you back in the next year? On the blank tags, write the issues that you would like to release with the energy of this full moon.

Imagine that the hands that are holding the antler with your tags will be taking the tags away into the woods. She will pray over them for you and make sure your intentions to release these things reach the forces conspiring in your favor.

Enjoy!

If you end up completing this moon page, I’d love to see what you created. You can even post the finished piece on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtag #danasartrituals or email me at support@danadaponte.com and share with me how it went for you. It’s fun for me to know there are others out there enjoying the moon with me.

with love,

Dana da Ponte

 

 

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Let’s use the new moon in December to practice the art of receiving!

Reflect

We are at a time of year best known as the season of giving. Most of us are comfortable with giving. Giving doesn’t challenge us. It makes us feel good. It sparks a warm feeling in our hearts. It lifts our spirits and makes us feel happy. It activates regions of the brain associated with pleasure, social connection, and trust. It releases endorphins and our bodies feel a warm glow.

Receiving, on the other hand, isn’t always so pleasurable.

Are you like me? Do you get triggered when there’s some big beautiful goodness coming your way? Does it make you feel scared? It should make us feel wonderful but instead it feels unfamiliar and we distrust the unfamiliar. We feel uncomfortable and anxious. It’s not logical but it happens. Our body responds as if it perceives danger.

The belly tightens up. You feel a knot in your throat. There’s a desire to reject what is being given – whether it’s a compliment or a gift or someone going out of their way to help you or someone giving you the gift of their time and a listening ear. There can be a restriction, a withdrawal or a closing down when you should be opening to receive.

You may even wonder why you are rejecting the offering of love. You don’t want to reject the offering but it happens automatically. Something inside cringes or feels shame. You want to apologize or run away. You feel too small and insignificant to accept the love that is being given. Something in you doesn’t know how to let go and receive, accept or take in.

There are different reasons you might feel uncomfortable receiving.

In the western culture, we’ve been trained to be independent. We believe unhelpful things like, “I shouldn’t need anything from anyone else.” “I should be able to handle this on my own.” “No one should have to go out of their way to take care of me.” “I don’t want to be a burden.

You might believe you have to reach certain criteria in order to receive something in return, as if you have to earn it first. If you don’t see yourself as having reached that criteria then you won’t feel worthy of what is being given to you and you won’t be open to receiving it. You’ll want to reject it – even if it’s something you really want or need.

If you have an internal trauma response, you might think there is something inherently wrong with you or you are bad or broken. Of course there’s nothing wrong with you; something bad just happened to you but the idea of receiving might trigger your trauma response. Your nervous system gets hijacked and something that should make you feel happy and good makes you feel anxious instead.

Your mind might naturally try to protect yourself by thinking such things as:

• No one should go out of their way to take care of me
• They will see me as a needy person who doesn’t know how to take care of themselves
• I don’t deserve it
• It is selfish
• If these really good things happen to me, something bad is just around the corner
• It’s too good to be true
• If I receive this there will be strings attached and I’ll regret it
• All this good is meant for someone else
• This goodness can’t possibly be for me

Receiving is actually a deeply vulnerable experience. Accepting someone’s love, care, concern, nurturing or gifts creates intimacy. When you truly receive from someone it creates a beautiful moment of connection but if you are secretly afraid of being seen, you will want to reject the offering. You won’t want them to truly see you because then they’ll see your flaws or they’ll see the truth of how unworthy you are and that feels like too big of a risk.

On this December new moon journal page, we’re going to work with our inner child and develop a bigger tolerance for receiving because this season of giving is also your time to receive.

It’s your time and you deserve it. You are enough. You are magic. Welcome the love in. Enjoy it. Let the goodness of it wash over you. Be in it. The love that brought you into being wants good for you. It wants you to have what makes you happy. The Love that birthed you into being wants the same good things for you that you want for yourself. Your wishes are Love’s wishes for you too.

If you are not on my email list and haven’t received this month’s moon page, visit my homepage and sign up. You’ll receive a link where you can download the hand-drawn page I created for this particular moon. Print it, grab a tea and a cozy blanket, get comfortable then follow the instructions below.

Create

If moon rituals are familiar to you, prepare your sacred space and invite Spirit to join you in whatever way works best for you.

If, however, you are new to moon rituals, I’ve included a quick guide to the steps I follow to prepare for my moon rituals in a past blog post. Take a look at it before moving forward.

Print out the December new moon journal page.

The page depicts a dark new moon with a large hand and then a child’s hand on top of it. There is a spiral in the palm of the child’s hand and roses surround the hands and moon. This journal has a lot of white space around it. In the white space, you are to write a letter to your inner child. Start at the top of the page and write:

“Dear little me,

I promise….”

Then complete the sentence by describing what you promise to help your inner child receive. Really think back to the deeper more meaningful things that she really wanted but did not receive from the adults around her. How would she have loved to be treated? How do you promise to treat her now? What do you want her to receive?

When the white spaces are filled with your words and you are done writing your letter, take a moment to place your left hand over the outline of the hands on the page. Place your right hand on your heart and sum up your promise in a couple sentences and state it out loud. Let the universe carry your promise from your hand to the big dark moon where your words become magic.

Finally, color your moon page as you think about how you will feel when your intentions become real.

If you end up completing this spiritual art ritual, I’d love to hear how it went. You can even take a picture of a part of your process and share it on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtag #danasmoonpages or email me at support@danadaponte.com and share with me how it went for you. It’s fun for me to know there are others out there enjoying the moon with me.

with love,

Dana da Ponte

 

 

 

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This November 2020 full moon journal page was created to help you release grief from the pandemic.

Reflect

In the northern hemisphere, we are entering the dark season. The dark season can feel emotionally overwhelming. For your ancestors you can imagine how the season with the least amount of sun was a time of scarcity and uncertainty. I’m sure they were often left wondering, “Did we store enough to get us through? How dark and cold will it get?”

Surviving the elements during the dark season was a lot more perilous than it is today but our bones remember. We remember how isolating the dark and cold can feel. We also remember how important connection, community and the winter celebrations were to help bring light to the darkness.

The winter solstice, which comes around the middle of December, marks the longest night of the year but that dark night also marks the moment when the days slowly start becoming longer. Until then, our nights are getting longer and longer and that energy draws us inward. Looking inward and facing yourself is no small thing.

My husband and I used to watch this series called Alone. In it, people competed to see who could survive in the wilderness without anyone else to accompany them. I was shocked to see how many gave up their chance to win not because they couldn’t catch food or build a shelter but because they couldn’t be alone with their thoughts and feelings. I saw strong, masterful survivalists give up after a week stating their reason for leaving was because they couldn’t stand being in their own head anymore.

In my work, I help people dive right into those psyches because yes, that’s where the hard things are but it’s also where your answers live.

One of the emotions you meet in the shadows of your own psyche is grief.

Most people find it difficult to greet grief with compassion. Grief is often thought of as an unpleasant emotion and it’s usually avoided at all costs. In my practice I’ve witnessed many people who couldn’t locate themselves in their own emotional landscape when grief came around to pay them a visit. The overwhelming feelings of grief confused and scared them. They thought something was terribly wrong. They wondered if they were depressed. They didn’t understand why they didn’t feel like themselves anymore but grief is normal and dare I say, necessary!

Except for the ceremonies we have around death, we don’t have a lot of rituals around grief which is unfortunate because there are a lot more kinds of grief than the grief we feel when we lose someone we love. When we allow ourselves to experience all kinds of grief, it opens us up to feeling deeply and feeling deeply is when you feel alive. William Blake’s, “The deeper the sorrow, the greater the joy” expresses this truth.

When you can’t dive deep into unpleasant emotions you end up living on the emotional surface of things and that’s where life feels numb. Nothing really excites you or lights you up. Nothing moves you. You’re cut off from your own inner compass. You can’t discern where your Spirit is calling you because you can’t hear or feel it. You can’t experience genuine joy without experiencing genuine grief.

Give yourself permission to grieve because grief doesn’t just come when you’ve lost someone you love. Grief sneaks up on you when your life changes in any small way and your life is always changing. You are always changing. You’re allowed to be sad because you lost something or someone. In fact, you should be sad about losing something or someone often because you are constantly transforming. Your body changes. Relationships change. Kids grow and change. Jobs change. Homes change. Nothing stays the same for very long and with every change comes grief. In order to birth something new, something old has to fall away. Even when you’re excited for that new experience, there is something about the old one that will feel like a loss.

Before you complete this moon page, I’d like you to take a moment to reflect on the grief you’ve been forced to face during the pandemic. Scroll down to the “Create” section of this post and you will see a list of things you may be grieving since the pandemic. Whatever your personal thoughts or feelings of the pandemic are, it has affected you and I’m sure you’ve experienced some form of grief.

Before the New Year greets us, carve a quiet moment to allow yourself to validate your feelings of grief and ask the full moon to carry away an heavy energy you don’t need to take with you into another year.

I’m sure the next year will continue to challenge us emotionally so let’s give ourselves as much of a blank slate as we can.

If you are not on my email list and haven’t received this month’s moon page, visit my homepage and sign up. You’ll receive a link where you can download the hand-drawn page I created for this particular moon. Print it, grab a tea and a cozy blanket, get comfortable then follow the instructions below.

Create

If moon rituals are familiar to you, prepare your sacred space and invite Spirit to join you in whatever way works best for you.

If, however, you are new to moon rituals, I’ve included a quick guide to the steps I follow to prepare for my moon rituals in a past blog post. Take a look at it before moving forward.

Print out the November full moon journal page and gather your pencil crayons or paint.

Think about what you have lost since the pandemic. One of the things you may have lost is a sense of routine. Where you work, where your kids go to school and play, the events you normally would have attended, the extra circular activities you had to drop, all the people you used to see on a daily basis may have changed. We’ve had to change how we shop, exercise, eat, entertain ourselves and celebrate holidays. You’re allowed to feel sad about all this change. You’re even allowed to feel angry. It’s not easy having to adapt to a whole new routine. You might feel displaced or out of sorts. It’s a lot of change to accept in a short amount of time.

Maybe you’re like me and the loss of freedom is causing you to grieve. We haven’t been able to go out and do whatever we want to do. I often feel restricted or trapped. It can also feel really frustrating being held back in this way. It’s not easy to lose your freedom. You’re allowed to struggle with that. Don’t belittle your pain or dismiss it by convincing yourself you shouldn’t feel the way you do. Just feel what you feel. Let it pass through and notice what happens on the other side of your pain. There’s always wisdom ready to greet you there.

There’s so much that doesn’t feel normal anymore. We’ve had to change so much about our daily lives you might be experiencing something as simple but profound as the loss of normality.

You might have experienced economic loss because of the pandemic such as the loss of a job or of an income you relied on. Even if you didn’t experience that kind of loss, you may be feeling the loss of economic security on a global or national scale. This kind of loss of security also brings anxiety and fear. You might be feeling afraid of a recession or the unpredictable nature of the economy might just be weighing heavy on you. Please don’t keep these fears to yourself. Share them with the people you love. You’re not meant to carry such heavy burdens on your own. When you do, it ends up growing inside you or it weighs you down much more than it has to.

Another aspect of everyday life that has drastically changed this year is our ability to connect with other people. This will be especially impactful if you live alone. We’ve had to experience the loss of co-regulation, the loss of connection, the loss of hugs and affection, the loss of physical nearness. All of this can bring about moments of overwhelming loneliness. We weren’t expecting to have to deal with this and for most of us it is unfamiliar to experience this on as grand of a scale as we are experiencing it now.

I had the unfortunate experience of losing people I love during this pandemic. If you did too, then you know how the global circumstances changed your experience of grieving someone you love. I wanted to share these words by David Kessler from an article titled “That Discomfort You’re Feeling is Grief”

“Humans are wired to reassure and to comfort. In my practice, I’ve seen that it is not only distressing to be deprived of receiving comfort, but similarly to be deprived of the ability to provide comfort. Not being able to directly comfort loved ones who are grieving right now is also painful.

The fact that we cannot gather and grieve is a really big blow.

Not being at your person’s bedside at the end of their life adds extra layers of suffering. It might add guilt: even though you weren’t allowed to be there, there’s a sense that you should have been anyway, or that you should have realized that they were sick sooner. There’s also a lot of survivor’s guilt around the coronavirus because the virus is transmitted by close contact—someone might think, I just saw my dad three weeks ago. Maybe I gave this to him. That survivor’s guilt is uncomfortable, and adds extra layers of suffering on top of grief itself, but it’s very normal.

If you are a parent or grandparent or you care for kids, your heart may be feeling heavy for the next generation. You may be grieving the future you thought they would have. You may be afraid of how the pandemic will emotionally impact them. You may be grieving with and for them as they have had to lose many comforts and joys.

On the moon page, you’ll notice a small bottle in the top left hand corner that has a blank label on it. Imagine you were placing all your grief in that bottle. What would you label the bottle?

As we grieve, it’s important to also focus on the positive aspects that accompany changes. Celebrate the good. What have you gained from this change? You may have lost a great many things but there will be things you have gained also. Let’s focus on that for a moment.

Perhaps you now have more time to take care of yourself. More time with immediate family. Closer connection with kids. A slower pace. Treasured moments with community. More intentional connection.

Focus on the things in your life you still enjoy like your walks in nature or the routines you still have that comfort and nurture you. Think of the sun and the way it still comes up every morning and the way the full moon still lights up the starlit sky.

Think of the art you like to look at or the art you like to make. Think of the poets and writers whose words still touch your soul. Think of the laughter you have still been able to share. Think of something you can do this week to bring you just a little piece of joy like the cuddles you can have with your pet or the flowers you can buy for your kitchen table or the gift you can send to make someone day’s a little brighter.

A friend shared with me the grief she was feeling around not being able to physically see her parents and siblings but then she also shared how close they have become because they aren’t waiting for family gatherings to connect. They are now making the effort to connect every day online or on the phone. It’s not the same but she expressed how the connection has been deeper and more soul nourishing.

Focus on one benefit you have experienced from these trying times. What’s one thing you have received or experienced that you would otherwise have not received or experienced? Imagine the goodness and sweetness of that feeling growing inside you.

Grab your pen or markers and crayons and finish the sentence on the moon page. Allow yourself to dream with that big brave full moon.

Enjoy!

If you end up completing this moon page, I’d love to see what you created. You can even post the finished piece on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtag #danasartrituals or email me at support@danadaponte.com and share with me how it went for you. It’s fun for me to know there are others out there enjoying the moon with me.

with love,

Dana da Ponte

 

 

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Let’s use the new moon in November to claim our power!

Reflect

This month my mind has been on women and power. Women have a long history of being silenced, oppressed, ignored, dominated and controlled. It doesn’t help that children have also been treated this way. Strong, loud, confident women with opinions are still punished or killed in some cultures and in my culture they are definitely still not often embraced and honored.

I think of a woman standing in her power as someone who doesn’t apologize for wanting to earn a lot of money if that’s what she wants to do. She has the ability to make her own choices without feeling obligated to make someone else happy. I think of a woman who claims her worth as someone who chooses to speak or write her opinion and has the guts to share her experience and point of view because she knows it has value. She knows she has value. I think of a powerful woman as someone who values her role in her community and her family and who defines that role herself; she does not take on a role just because other people expect her to. I see a powerful woman as someone who wears pants even though everyone around her pressures her to wear a skirt or who wears a skirt, not because you told her to but because she feels good in it. I see a powerful woman as someone who is hell bent on making herself happy first and expects the people she loves to make themselves happy – not look to her to change or sacrifice something just so they can be happy.

I see power in a woman when she loves herself more than she needs other people to love her. I hear power in a woman’s voice when she speaks truths others ignore or says No! and follows it up by refusing to value your company more than her wellbeing. A powerful woman has taken the time to know herself. She knows what she likes and what she doesn’t like and she trusts herself. She trusts her preferences. She sees what makes her unique. She likes herself. She isn’t afraid of grief or guilt or rage. She’s strong enough to feel because she knows there is power in the heart. She believes in her dreams and will fight for them. She believes in your dreams too and isn’t threatened by them because she’s too busy becoming all that she has the potential to be.

Becoming a woman with power isn’t easy in this world. If you identify as a woman, you have most likely learned to internalize the oppressive, dominant and dismissive behavior to the point where you now have to fight both culture and your own internal programming to claim your power and know your worth. If you don’t see your worth and if you struggle to find your power, know that it truly isn’t your fault. You aren’t weak and you don’t lack something other people have. You are simply seeing yourself as the world has taught you to see women. You can’t be dominated, silenced and punished and expect yourself to easily claim your power.

For most of my life, I didn’t feel powerful. I experienced sexual trauma at a young age and it caused me to dissociate from myself. Disconnecting from myself and my emotions became a habit my brain feel into. Whenever an uncomfortable situation arose in my life or I started to feel something I didn’t want to feel, I automatically dissociated from my body and emotions. Being disconnected from my own experience became all that I knew so it felt normal to me. But it wasn’t normal and it wasn’t healthy and it caused me to feel powerless. How can you see what makes you unique when you don’t even know who you are? How can you trust your feelings when you live in a perpetual state of numbness? How can you follow your dreams when you have no idea what you really want?

The way women are silenced and oppressed causes us to disconnect from our power and our true essence.

When You’re Not Standing in Your Power

Here’s a list of things you might experience when you’re not standing in your power:

  • You feel trapped
  • You think life is working against you
  • You expect bad things to happen to you
  • You believe the negative thoughts your mind thinks about yourself
  • You feel selfish making decisions that make you happy
  • You settle for less than what you want
  • You keep your opinions to yourself
  • You are uncomfortable saying No!
  • You agree to do things when you don’t really want to do them
  • You care more about making other people happy than you do about making yourself happy
  • You place someone else’s opinion about you or your work above your own
  • You make sacrifices in your relationship more often than you want to
  • You collapse when you’re confronted with a problem

If you resonate with a lot of these statements, you may want to learn more about trauma and how it affects your sense of self. I know for me, healing the mother wound and tending to my trauma were the most important steps to reclaiming my power.

I created this new moon page to inspire you to spend some time in sacred space getting to know yourself in a deeper more meaningful way because that is where you will find your power. Your power has always been there. We just have to peel away the lies and let your spirit come shining through.

If you are not on my email list and haven’t received this month’s moon page, visit my homepage and sign up. You’ll receive a link where you can download the hand-drawn page I created for this particular moon. Print it, grab a tea and a cozy blanket, get comfortable then follow the instructions below.

Create

If moon rituals are familiar to you, prepare your sacred space and invite Spirit to join you in whatever way works best for you.

If, however, you are new to moon rituals, I’ve included a quick guide to the steps I follow to prepare for my moon rituals in a past blog post. Take a look at it before moving forward.

Print out the November new moon journal page.

Notice the horse snuggling up to the woman’s hand. I drew a horse on this page because many years ago, I had a recurring nightmare where I was outside and these black horses would run wildly in my path and I would have to quickly get out of the way. In my journal, I had a conversation with my angel Cassandra where I told her about the dream and asked her what I should do. She told me that I was feeling powerless in my life and I should practice controlling my dream and see what happens. I wasn’t able to do it right away but a few days later the nightmare returned except this time I yelled at the horses and asked them to stop. I walked towards them and asked the biggest one if I could jump on his back. He agreed and I rode away with them. I woke up feeling amazing and seeing that I actually could control more than I thought I could.

If you’ve been around horses then you know how powerful they are. There is so much lore and symbolism around the horse but I definitely want the horse on this moon page to remind you that you can be friends with power. It’s important you get to know yourself as powerful otherwise you risk constantly seeing yourself as the victim who has no control over her circumstances and that is not a fun way to live my friend. You have the power you need to make the changes you want to make in your life. The butterfly on the oracle card that sits on the table represents the transformation that happens when you claim your power. It’s such a different experience living like a victim compared to seeing yourself as a powerful woman with choices.

On the moon page, the woman’s hand is holding a paintbrush as she wields her magic into the air. Think of one area in your life where you don’t feel powerful. Think of how different that area in your life would look if you saw yourself as a powerful woman and made choices that reflected that truth. In between the sparkling star dust, write or draw the changes you imagine might happen.

 

Finally, color your moon page as you think about how you will feel when your intentions become real.

If you end up completing this spiritual art ritual, I’d love to hear how it went. You can even take a picture of a part of your process and share it on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtag #danasartrituals or email me at support@danadaponte.com and share with me how it went for you. It’s fun for me to know there are others out there enjoying the moon with me.

with love,

Dana da Ponte

 

 

 

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